Wednesday, March 31, 2010

many faces of Hayden

I took these pictures of Hayden last month. She's pretty precious these days. She's just at a fun age where she's really interactive, but can't really disobey and i don't have to discipline her yet. Boo on being a disciplinarian. Thumbs up on the rest of mommyhood.
i'm sweet
yay life is awesome!
clapping my hands is my favorite trick
what are you looking at?

Regarding that last picture...a little sassiness is starting to emerge from this little angel. If I ask her to come to me she gets this twinkle in her eye like, "maybe i will or maybe i won't." She has major melt downs when her diaper has to be changed (kicking, thrashing, wailing) and once it's over she goes right back to her sweet self. When Liam strips her of a toy she attempts to defend herself and shreaks and whops him with her chubby little hands. Then Liam looks at me like aren't you going to do something about her behavior? She's so dramatic in the morning when she's waiting for me to get her cup of milk. She yells "EEEEEEEE! AHHHHHH! over and over and over.

Her hair is growing like crazy! A couple of pics:
see the little wings of hair by her ears? and yum to chocolate pie.
bed head

What's really going on right now...
Will's working A LOT. A resident in his department had to leave the program so Will was moved up to a second year spot for the next quarter (April through June). Second year residents are the junior to the chief of neurosurgery. They carry the pager for the chief's service 24 hours a day and get a break every other weekend.

His week so far: Monday he worked from 5:30 am to 7:00 pm with a couple of pages in the night. Tuesday he worked from 5:30 am to 11:00 pm. Today he worked from 5:30 am to 6:30 pm but just got a page at 10:30 and went back in for the night. So I'm at home right now thinking, ok we can do this. we signed up for this. we knew this was coming. it's only a season of life. don't cry.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Lexia and Gus

Our dear wonderful friends Lexia and Gus came all the way from Amarillo, TX to visit us this past weekend. It was wonderful! I didn't want it to be over. We laid pretty low in Rochester most of the weekend. Will watched the kids Saturday night and Lexia and I went out for dinner and a movie. In general Will doesn't just love to take care of other people's kids, but he said Saturday night with Gus was super easy. Gus is such a sweet sweet kid - big talker, gentle with Hayden, good sharer and just easy to be around. Oh and totally potty-trained. I was hoping that all of these qualities would rub off on my sweet son. The boys played really well together. Gus was totally game to wrestle with Liam and of course Liam loved it! Liam had his momets with sharing but overall he did good. We have missed them so much! Since we've moved, Liam still brings up Gus on a regular basis. They are such good buddies.

I met Lexia at a mom's Bible study that I joined in Little Rock shortly after I had Liam. We were in the same small group and realized that we lived in the same neighborhood - me on A St. and she on C St.

Lexia had moved from Amarillo for her hubby's residency and mentioned one day in small group that she had been lonely since they moved to LR. I thought she was super sweet and down to earth, and I was in the market for other mom friends so i jumped on that and asked her to come over for a playdate. At the time Liam was 5 months and Gus was 7 months so it was definitely more for our enjoyment than theirs.

We clicked from the beginning and got together at least once a week if not more from that day on. Nearly every weekday morning Liam and I would wake up and try to entertain ourselves at home, but just end up called Lexia and Gus to hang out. I have so many great memories from those almost 2 years that we spent in LR together - mornings at the zoo, lunches at chick-fil-a, girls-night-out at macaroni grill, both of our boys' 1st and 2nd birthdays, and having our baby girls. I actually got to be with Lexia when she gave birth to her daughter Nola.

Lexia's husband Blaine finished his residency at the same time that Will graduated from medical school. So in June she moved back home to Amarillo and I moved far from home to Minnesota. One of the biggest adjustments since the move has been living life without them in our weekly routine! We love them so so much and I know they will be lifelong friends.

Thank you to Blaine for sharing his wife and son for a few days! Thank you Lexia for taking the time and money to make the trek to the north - pregnant and all. You're the best!

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

raising a two year old

Raising a two year old. Oh my. Every month parenting magazines show up in my mailbox. I resist hurling them across the room when they claim you can tame your two year old in 3 easy steps. I lay in bed at the end of most days questioning myself - "I should have been more consistent there" or "I was too hard on him then." Help me, Lord! Liam is energetic, physical, impulsive, daring, and smart. If I draw a line he wants to see how close he can get to it and what will happen if he crosses it.
Me: Liam, please don't put your finger in Hayden's eye.
Me: Liam, don't put your thumb in Hayden's eye either.

And just today:
Me: Liam, please don't bang the bowling pin on the window.
(bang, bang, bang)
Me: Liam, don't bang the bowling pin on the table either.
(tap, tap, tap)
Me: If you bang OR tap the bowling pin on anything again, I'll take it away.
(tap, tap, tap)
Me: Hand it over bubba.

I feel like I'm constantly correcting, disciplining, and telling him no. I have to really look for things to praise him on because I don't want him to feel like I'm just beatin' him down all day.

And then of course there's potty-training. Too many times I've thought, "i think he's finally got this potty thing down." The next day - poop in the pants. He will go an entire day without wetting his pants. Then the next day, he's wetting his pants every time I turn around. Wearing me out!

Speaking of pants...American Idol fans can appreciate this. A few weeks ago Liam stood up on the fire place (his "stage") to quote his memory verse. He stood there for a minute and then said "Pants on the ground, pants on the ground, lookin' like a fool with ya pants on the ground, gold in ya mouth, hat turned sideways." Not exactly the 23rd Psalm! He did it again at the grocery store. Hayden was kinda antsy and I asked Liam to sing her a song. So he breaks out in "Pants On the Ground" at the top of his lungs. Hilarious! I tried to keep a straight face and switch him to the "Jesus Loves Me" track.

No doubt he makes me crazy. One minute I want to cry because my sweet baby boy is dragging his sister down the stairs by her toes, and the next minute I'm laughing because he's running around the front yard in his underwear with sox on his hands - which he did today.
notice there is no snow! it melted away about two weeks ago. woo hoo!!! we survived our first minnesota winter!

I find myself repeating the same phrases over and over:
"Gentle hands Liam"
"Use a kind voice."
"Yes, please?"
"Yes, please?"
"Hayden is more special than any toy."
"Don't pick Hayden up please."
"Are you dry?"
"Let's have a potty break"
"Yes, please?"
"Time for a potty break"
And the latest addition: "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." (thanks mom!)

He has a MAJOR struggle with sharing. I keep thinking he should be growing out of this problem by now. This is where the line "Hayden is more special than any toy" comes in to play. I don't want him to share just because I tell him to. I want him to share because it's the right thing to do and the right way to treat others - because people are more important than things. He's not grasping that concept so much.

After Bible class or any kind of childcare time I will ask Liam, "how was class today?" Many times he says, "I hit kids and take toys away." Great. Awesome.

So I guess the moral of this story is...what goes around comes around. My deepest apologies to my mother. I know now what she endured to raise me!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

The Snowman

Last year my mom bought this wierd old kids' movie called The Snowman. It's about this boy who makes a snowman (with so much snow in his front yard he must live in Minnesota). The snowman comes to life and does all these fun things with the boy. It ends tragically. Sorry to ruin it for you but...the snowman melts. Anyway, Liam LOVES this movie and always wants to watch it when we go to my parents' house. Given his love for The Snowman, it was high time that he made one of his own. So today we made our first Minnesota snowman!
we named him Joseph

Liam, Joseph and Hayden - Liam was seriously so proud

liam's exact words "i yuhv him"

good times

Hayden watching us crazies

A week or so ago Will was home for the day so we had a snow day. We went sledding down our hill, buried each other in the snow, then came in, ate soup and made snow ice cream. I'd heard of snow cream from several people and decided to try my hand at making it. It's just snow, milk, sugar and vanilla. It was actually really delicious! We were going to end our day with ice skating, but ended up napping late instead - love it.
our first batch of snow cream

liam was a fan

It's really been warming up around here - 20s and 30s and supposed to hit the 40s a couple of days next week. But I've been told that this winter has been mild and to watch out because if the winter "comes in like a lamb" it will go "out like a lion". That little terminology must be a traditional saying around here because I've had a handful of people tell me that. So I'm told to brace myself for a big March snowstorm, and then winter, and our snowman, will finally melt away. And in our story that is a happy ending!